We know the news of an unexpected pregnancy can be alarming to you as a parent. Take a deep breath and a moment to yourself, if needed, before diving into the news with your daughter.
You can do this.
Is Your Daughter Pregnant?
At Bella, we recognize that when a young woman has an unplanned pregnancy, she isn’t the only one affected by the news. Her parents, boyfriend, siblings, grandparents, and the other people close to her may also experience some roller-coaster emotions.
If you need to talk, we are here for you.
As her parents, you may feel shock, fear, disappointment, embarrassment, and even despair at the news that your daughter is pregnant. These feelings are normal, but remember that your daughter, too, is facing an overwhelming situation. One of her greatest fears may be how you are going to react.
Do Your Best not to Overreact
Words spoken in haste can cause confusion and damage your relationship with your daughter. Remain calm, take a deep breath, and try to avoid condemnation and assigning blame (to your daughter, the young man involved, or yourself).
Focus on the positive, including your unconditional love and concern for your daughter. Remember that showing love and acceptance of your daughter is NOT condoning her behavior. It is affirming your relationship with her.
Here are some approaches to the situation to consider as you navigate this time with your daughter:
- Don’t try to force or talk her into doing something she may regret later.
- Find ways to help her make rational, thoughtful decisions.
- Offer her privacy and some space. Let her think things through without demanding that she share all of her thoughts and feelings with you.
- Help her find a compassionate and caring healthcare provider she feels comfortable with. This way, she can confirm her pregnancy and discuss her health.
- Encourage her to eat healthy foods and get proper exercise.
- Be available to answer questions, remembering that they are not silly or unimportant to her.
- Support your daughter as she tells other family members. You may want to offer to tell some of them yourself.
- Help her plan for a safe, healthy, and secure future for her child–your grandchild.
Your Support Matters
Remember, a family crisis can draw family members together or drive them apart. Many people will offer you advice, but it’s important to seek wisdom and guidance from those who understand the unique dynamics of an unplanned pregnancy.
Your support matters most to your daughter during a time like this. Whether she admits it or not, she cares about what you have to say.
We are a place to lean on during a stressful time like an unexpected pregnancy. Contact us for confidential and caring help for you and/or your daughter.