When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy, and your partner is strongly encouraging you to have an abortion, it can feel confusing and emotionally exhausting. You may be trying to sort through your own thoughts while also managing his fears, expectations, or sense of urgency. Feeling overwhelmed in this situation is completely understandable.
Your partner’s reaction may be rooted in concerns about finances, education, career plans, or timing. He might believe abortion is the quickest way to resolve the situation. However, abortion is a serious decision, with physical and emotional risks to consider.
At Bella, our compassionate advocates offer free, confidential support, allowing you to explore your next steps without pressure. Schedule an appointment today to talk with someone who will listen and respect your experience.
Giving Yourself Space to Think
If conversations with your partner feel intense, repetitive, or one-sided, it’s okay to create some healthy distance. Setting boundaries can sound like confidently stating that you need time to think, without pressure or urgency.
Taking care of your emotional well-being isn’t selfish; it’s responsible. Giving yourself a few days to journal, reflect, or talk with a trusted friend can help you reconnect with your own thoughts and values.
You Deserve Respect
There’s an important difference between sharing an opinion and attempting to control a decision. If your partner threatens to leave, withdraw financial support, or isolate you from friends or family unless you agree with him, these are signs of coercion. Coercion is not care, nor is it love.
If at any point you feel unsafe, emotionally or physically, it’s essential to seek help right away. Reaching out for support can offer guidance and protection during a challenging time. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233) offers 24/7 confidential assistance so you can get the help you need.
Exploring Your Options in a Supportive Setting
Pressure can make it hard to think clearly about what’s truly best for you. Meeting with a trained staff member at Bella provides a calm, neutral space to discuss all your options, including parenting and adoption. We can also help you understand the potential physical and emotional impacts of abortion so you can make an informed decision.
We can also connect you with practical resources, such as housing support, counseling referrals, and ongoing care, if you choose to continue your pregnancy. You don’t have to have everything figured out before coming in.
You Deserve Respect and Support
No one has the right to force or pressure you into a decision about your pregnancy. At Bella, every client is treated with dignity, compassion, and respect.
Schedule your free, confidential appointment today to meet with us. We’ll help you explore your options in a supportive environment.
FAQ:
Can my partner make me have an abortion?
No. Legally and ethically, the decision is yours. No one can force or threaten you into an abortion.
What if I’m afraid to share my decision?
Your safety comes first. If you’re worried about your partner’s reaction, consider speaking with someone you trust or reaching out to a local support or crisis line for guidance.
Does Bella provide abortions?
No. Bella does not perform or refer for abortions. We provide free, confidential information and support so you can make an informed decision that’s right for you.